Dating a poly couple
But we’ve learned to embrace change as a constant in our lives, bringing us endless possibilities for adventure and self-discovery.
OK, I'll just put it out there: Being monogamous is hard.
Most importantly, I’m not worried about what the future holds – whether I stay with Ellie, whether she and Dan stay together, etcetera — because this whole situation, this love story, has changed the way all I (all three of us, really) view love.
I’ve never bought into the assumption that the traditions we’re born into are necessarily right for us, and now that includes relationships.
Dan stayed behind to continue his work, but planned to move there eventually too.While that’s usually a comment that my polyamorous friends get when they come out about their relationships (including, I’ll confess, from me), the truth is that it’s not like monogamy is a helluva lot easier.Sure, polyamory comes with the added stress of multiple relationships but monogamy is straight up fighting against our natural instincts so… But let me take a step back for a second and do a little term-defining.Dan and Ellie worked together and were known as a couple to a very large network of friends and colleagues.Our close friends knew the truth – that the three of us were together — but there were uncomfortable situations in which I felt like their dirty secret.